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Love Others First

I wrote this in 2015:

Why don't people realize what they've got, be thankful & try to keep it?People take so much from others for granted. We need to learn to put others before ourselves. Focus on keeping them happy. Show them they are important to us.

Losing someone you love by no fault of your own or theirs is a hard place to be and a hard thing to comprehend. But so much harder is losing someone simply because they took you for granted and didn't put your happiness above theirs.

Harder still is losing someone you love because you did nothing to keep them. when you wake up alone and realize how little you did, I wonder, do you feel sad & bad enough to make necessary changes to prevent losing the next person you are fortunate enough to love? Jan 22, 2015


I have seen this scenario is several ways lately. I have seen someone important to me make temporary changes in a desperate measure to change an expected outcome. It worked, they got what they wanted from me. The changes however, didn't even last a month before returning to prior behaviors. I am the one hurt in this situation.

Another scenario, I have lost, or mostly lost, someone who means a tremendous amount to me simply because I was honest about putting someone else's needs above my own no matter what and because I could not and would not make changes that were asked of me because those changes would change the prior statement. So, I've been accused of choosing one over another when that just isn't the case.

Why are we, as humans in general, so selfish that we believe that others should bend to our demands, requests and desires without giving thought or action to another's demands, requests and desires? Putting love into others means putting their needs etc. above your own. I desperately try to live in this statement daily, even when it costs me other people that I love.

Y'all, practice true love. Put yourself aside a bit for another. Show them what they mean to you as a human by doing for them. Even if you don't see it right away, or even from that person, that love will be returned to you in abundance.

All My Love, Me

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